A Sneak Peek at My 7 Year Old’s New Temper Tantrum Cure

I’ve been super short on time lately, but I want to drop in to share the amazing progress I have made with Katie and a new healing modality.

I have gone full on woo woo, folks. I have entered into the world of Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) and taken a left turn into energy medicine. It combines TCM’s understanding of the body through the meridians – like in acupuncture – and even ties in the body’s reflex points that I use to test supplements on clients as an NTP.

Combining the first tiny experiments with my growing understanding of essential oils is blowing my mind. For real.

This is all still very new to me, and I’m full on experimenting with ideas and techniques…but it’s working. Even at this early stage, combining energy medicine/TCM with essential oils is as life changing as nutritional therapy. I can’t even adequately describe how excited I am, and I cannot WAIT to fully understand and use it.

If you have been on the fence about essential oils or haven’t done much with them, now is the time. Stick with me, and they may just turn your world right side up again.

In addition to all the progress I’ve made with Katie, techniques on me, the hubs, and baby Luca have all been successful. I AM A HAPPY, CALM MOM 90% OF THE DAY even in a seriously sleep deprived state. That alone deserves to be screamed from a mountain somewhere.

Here are the posts that I shared in my essential oils group on Facebook —



Are you ready for an essential oils breakthrough? I can’t contain my excitement about the new area of study and research that I’m embarking on.

I’m now studying the connection between the physical body and our emotions through Chinese/energy medicine.

EOs and flower essences are my favorite tools for emotional balancing. By linking it to physical dysfunction, we can see a holistic relationship emerge and learn to address imbalances in new ways.

The most intriguing example for me right now is my 7 year old daughter. She gets insanely hyper at 5 pm every day like clockwork and her emotions spiral out of control until she is a stomping, yelling, angry mess.

I’ve been at a loss on the cause and have been racking my brain and trying different remedies with no luck.

She has always had symptoms around kidney dysfunction. Last night, I reread that 5 pm is ‘kidney’ on the 24-hour Qi clock. Ding ding ding!

That means her kidney energy is most active from 5-7 pm, and the dysfunction causes her to act out and her energy to go haywire. The kidneys filter toxic energy.

Kidneys are also associated with fear. A big one for us. She has agoraphobia and is afraid to leave the house without a parent with her, and often has to stay with me over daddy. A recent fear of spiders and imaginary ones covering the ceiling at bedtime have been an issue too.

Tying it back to EOs, I am going to start balancing the emotions tied to kidney dysfunction with oils.

Oils that instill courage, uplift the mood, inspire optimism, and grounding oils that help to calm and balance the energy will be rubbed over her kidneys (1% dilution) 2-3 times a day, especially at 5 pm and bedtime.

I’ll be testing her reflex points, and using intuition, scent, and muscle testing to determine which are the best oils to start with.

In 2-3 weeks, we’ll see what changes happen and which oils work best on her. Then, I’ll start energy work and flower essences to see how well they work synergistically with oils, and nutritional therapy to address the physical dysfunction.



After working on the emotional and energetic side of Katie’s kidneys with essential oils for just a few (bumbling) sessions, she is ready to fly on an airplane again.

It has been over 2 years. She got very sick and almost passed out from the pressure changes during descent and understandably refused to get on another plane.

Apparently, Angelica essential oil does help heal deep emotional trauma and kidneys are the seat of fear.

No monsters watching her, no imaginary spiders crawling all over her ceiling at bedtime, and she even decided to watch the ‘scary’ parts in Brave over the weekend.

Now, we’re working on anger. 👿 Ai yai yai.




Jennifer Nervo is a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner, Reiki Master Practitioner & teacher, and Aromatherapist. Her focus is on digestive, nervous, and immune system dysfunction and the fields of functional nutrition & psychoneuroimmunology. She works with all conditions and diseases including environmental and food allergies, autoimmune diseases, multiple chemical sensitivity, diabetes, eczema, anxiety, weight loss as a symptom of dis-ease, and gut-brain disorders like autism.

When she’s not herding her small troupe of monkeys or seeing clients, her free time is packed with researching and perfecting new wellness techniques (her not-so-secret passion). Jennifer is currently a group leader for the newest class of Nutritional Therapy Practitioners out of Ann Arbor, MI, studying for the national board exam in holistic nutrition, and running a combined distance and brick and mortar practice in metro Detroit. She’s also a homeschooling suburbanite, foodie, and mama to two littles and a schnoodle.

8 thoughts on “A Sneak Peek at My 7 Year Old’s New Temper Tantrum Cure”

  • I was curious about how you handled the tantrums but did I miss something? You are rubbing EO’s on her abdomen at 5 pm and at bedtime. What oil? any EO? This is because of her kidneys? Maybe I am missing something but all this post is really telling me is that you want me to join your team.

    • Not at all, Jenifer! This post is not about signing up for essential oils, and I hope that only one line in the entire post doesn’t convey that feel.

      This is not a post on ‘handling’ tantrums or a blog about behavior modifications, so we handle things by addressing the deeper cause. The ‘cure’ is working with TCM/energy medicine to clear the energy meridians that are blocked and weak to release the toxic emotions and energy that is not flowing clearly.

      It would sound much crazier if the results weren’t so dramatic.

      You may want to reread the post to understand the relationship between the kidneys, toxic energy (causing the tantrums), and fear. Essential oils work on the emotional and energetic side by more easily and quickly allowing the energy medicine to work and also work directly on changing the emotions that she feels.

      I have found that I can’t practice energy medicine without essential oils. I’m not strong enough empathically, maybe because I’m in such a state of sleep deprivation. The oils we’ve used so far are elemi, vetiver, bergamot, angelica, and Young Living’s Valor blend. It will vary, but I focus on oils that are grounding, release fear, and are good for emotional trauma.

  • Love hearing how you are combining NT and EOs, with energy. Super cool. keep me posted. Are you studying TCM with someone specific or a school? TIA

    • Hey Leslie! I am starting with a foot high stack of books. I would love to study under someone in the future when the little one is older. I should probably finish my aromatherapy certification too. 😀

  • I’ve been diving into lots of things in the past several years and they all seem to meet somewhere and it’s ALL about ENERGY. Have you checked out Emotional Freedom Technique/EFT/tapping? I went from that to Biomagnets and Essential Oils and Bach flower remedies…now I’m on to homeopathy…. I think there is a time and place for all of it.

    I love that you are open to learning and trying new things even if they seem “out there” to others! =)

    Are you familiar with the magazine Well Being Journal? They always have good articles and usually include something on energy healing, as well.

    • I have quite a few friends and colleagues who use EFT, but I haven’t gotten to it yet myself. Always so many things!

      It sounds like we have similar journeys into the healing arts. 🙂 I’ll have to check out that magazine. Thanks for the rec!

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